Raising Kids with Self-Esteem

It's a powerful weapon in the war against teenage drug and alcohol abuse. And it doesn’t cost parents a penny. It's called the “self-esteem shield.”

Research shows that adolescents who grow up with high self-esteem are far less likely to abuse drugs or drink alcohol compared with kids who grow up without a sense of self-worth.

Here are several steps you can take to help your children develop self-esteem:

• To teach self-respect, you must show respect at all times. Speak to your child with respect—even when upset or angry. Never give in to the temptation to shout or demean.
• Focus on the positive. Praise the child's behavior when appropriate, but don't exaggerate. For children and especially adolescents, express confidence in their ability.
• Enjoy your teenager. Tap into his or her humor, energy, and creative sense of possibility. The odds are high that you’ll get in touch with your own youthful side.
• Listen carefully to your teenager when he or she is trying to tell you something. Make it clear that you're very interested by removing all other distractions. Also, be sure to praise the child's efforts to communicate with you, whenever possible.