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Having resolve in the midst of brokenness
Mar 14, 2022
What is resolve in the midst of brokenness? “Brokenness” is what happens when one’s ordinary resources of healing cease to perform their function, particularly in the aftermath of a traumatic event. Much of the time, it is normal for our bodies to involuntarily do what is necessary for us to survive. Our bodies are usually pre-wired to breathe, pump blood and process oxygen without us having to intentionally tell our organs to do so. If we eat the right foods, exercise the right amount, experience less triggers for stress, and so on, our bodies will generally be healthier overall…
When someone you love dies, and grief has invaded your life, the degree to which our bodies do not work can be shocking. Hobbies that used to make us smile make us cry. Places we used to love to go, we now avoid. People we used to cling to, suddenly they seem hard to stay around. Our foods, mannerisms, emotions, etc. may all be in upheaval, making it seem that our bodies are fundamentally “broken”--that is, physically, emotionally and otherwise.
During those times of grief, when our spirit has been broken, we must be extra vigilant in the care of our bodies–not because the physical and emotional changes that accompany grief are abnormal, but rather because they are both normal and profound. But the good news is this: When extraordinary events befall us, our bodies can achieve an extraordinary resolve to survive. This is resolve in the midst of brokenness.
Many of us walk through the world as survivors. We go about our day to day routine, wandering through shopping malls, driving to and from work, or meditating at yoga class, or attending religious services–all the while knowing that deep down, we are broken…and every day is a struggle, and yet we still have no place to express our resolve as survivors. This is precisely why Lory’s Place is here for you!