Honoring Your Person
Jun 22, 2022
“When I am afraid that I will forget something of my loved one--a word, a moment, a look, a habit, a gesture--I will record it. In this way, I will build a living treasure that will provide comfort to me and to others in the days and years ahead.” - A Time to Grieve, Carol Staudacher.
Due to the pandemic, we had been unable to hold the Lory’s Place Run Walk Rock 5k fundraiser since 2019. All that changed on Saturday, June 21, 2022, It felt great to host the event outdoors with our community, People were energized, excited and ready to connect for Lory’s Place. Seeing familiar faces and meeting new friends elevated the level of excitement. People were ready to get out, get moving and push themselves. Everyone, who participated, were doing so for various reasons. Many were participating because they love the services that Lory’s Place provides to the community. Others because they love the thrill of competing. And others were competing for health reasons.
When Linda crossed the finish line she collapsed, weeping. When asked if she was okay, she said yes. She shared that this was her first 5k race and that she was running for a couple of very important reasons. She and her husband had always talked about running a 5k together, as well as take salsa lessons. She wanted them to spend this time together and get healthy. They assumed they would have time, but he died unexpectedly, leaving their plans unfulfilled. Her kids are also very active and involved in sports. She pushes them to work hard, stay committed and take care of their health, but realized she wasn’t following her own advice. It was time she practiced what she preached, while fulfilling the promise she made to her husband after his death. “I did it for my husband, I did it for my kids and I did it for myself. When I crossed the finish line, I realized I not only finished, but I beat the goal I had for myself. I know he was watching over me every step of the way.”
Each person on their grief journey will find a way to honor their person in a way that is meaningful and unique to them. One participant honored his wife by buying the hearing aids his wife had wanted him to have for years. Another honored her mother by spreading her ashes at all her favorite places. Most of our participants will tell you, don’t wait, those you love could be gone tomorrow.
If you are grieving a death and think a support group might be for you, please contact us at 269-983-2707. We’re always here and available to listen